Expectations That Lead to Better Relationships

Reasonable expectations will lead to better relationships, while unreasonable expectations are a great way to fall into strife. 

When we believe people should behave in a certain way or do certain things and then they don’t meet the mark, we can become angry or upset at them.

A great Bible example of this is in 2 Kings 5, where Naaman expected the prophet Elisha to visit him and declare a healing blessing over him while waving his hand. Instead, Naaman became offended when Elisha sent his messenger to tell Naaman to dip seven times in the river.

I’ve found cutting people some slack in relationships goes a long, long way in keeping things peaceful and fun.

Proverbs 14:4 says, “An empty stable stays clean—but there is no income from an empty stable.” 

Allow me to offer you a real-life example.

Have you ever visited a display home? They are gorgeous and pristine, with a spotless kitchen and immaculate lawns. Everything has a place and stays in its place. There may even be a nice lavender candle burning on the table.

I love the peace in such an environment. However, it would be unwise of me to approach my household with this unreasonable expectation.

We are a busy family with many people living busy lives, so our home isn’t always pristine. We might have dishes piled in the sink and carpets needing a vacuum. Our lawns might not be mowed as often as I prefer, but if I expected my family to keep everything as clean as a display home, I would inevitably lead us into strife.

Life can be messy. Display homes stay cleaner than actual homes because display homes have no life.

Display homes don’t have grown children still living at home. They don’t have grandchildren visiting and sometimes leaving their toys “not in their place”. They don’t have family and friends regularly stopping by for dinner, and they certainly don’t have dogs and rabbits who, occasionally, create a bit of mess.

Instead of letting frustration build over life's inevitable messes, choose to celebrate the life and fruitfulness your home holds. When we reassess our expectations and embrace grace, we’ll experience healthier, joy-filled, and more peaceful relationships.